The Real Resolution for 2026? The One Where you Stop Abandoning Yourself
As we head towards the new year, we often think about promises we make ourselves - to rest more, to speak up, to set better boundaries or to make healthier choices. But a week or so into the new year, a familiar sinking feeling sets in, where we realise nothing has really shifted. And we think it’s a failure of willpower.
But it’s really a pattern - and it’s one that we often don’t realise we’re stuck in.
Most of the time, we don’t struggle because we lack motivation or discipline. We struggle because we’ve become experts at ignoring ourselves. At ‘pushing through’. At shrinking our needs. At calling exhaustion ‘normal’ and overwhelm ‘just life’.
This is called Self-Abandonment.
What Self-Abandonment Actually Looks Like
Self-abandonment isn’t obvious. It doesn’t always looks like neglect or chaos. It often looks like complete competence.
It’s saying yes when your body is already tired. It’s shrinking your needs to avoid tension.It’s carrying the mental load without question. It’s dimming your energy so you don’t take up too much space. It’s promising ourself you’ll rest, speak up, change things - later.
But later never quite comes.
And it’s not because you don’t care. But because you’ve been taught subtly and consistently, that being ‘good’, capable, and easy is safer than being honest.
Because honest is vulnerable. And scary. And what if people don’t like your truth?
The Cost of Abandoning Yourself (without the drama)
When this pattern becomes your life, it doesn’t explode it - it often erodes it. You start to feel:
Overwhelmed by things that never used to faze you
Irritable without knowing why
Disconnected from your spark
Exhausted in a way that sleep doesn’t fix
Quietly resentful of the very life you worked hard to build
And the most painful part? You begin to double yourself. You tell yourself you’re ungrateful. Or dramatic. Or failing at something everyone else seems to manage just fine.
But the truth is simpler (and kinder).
You’re tired because you’ve been leaving yourself behind.
The Real Resolution for 2026
2026 doesn’t need you to become a new version of yourself. It needs you to stop the daily micro-betrayals.
The real resolution isn’t doing more, being better, trying harder.
It’s this: stop abandoning yourself when it feels uncomfortable to stay.
Stay with your body when it says no (you will ALWAYS feel it in your body first - and your gut instinct is rarely wrong).
Stay with your truth, even when it would be easier to just smooth things over.
Stay with (and listen to) your energy, instead of forcing yourself through another day on empty.
This is not selfish - it’s sustainable.
Where Energy Comes into This
Most of us are never taught how to manage our energy. Perhaps you’re not even aware you have energy to manage! So we manage time, tasks and people - but not ourselves.
But when you don’t understand what drains you and what restores you, you end up overriding your natural rhythm. And when that happens long enough, self-trust erodes.
Re-building self-trust doesn’t start with confidence - it starts with listening.
Listening to:
When you need quiet
When you need movement
When you need sace
When you need support
When your body is already saying ‘enough’
Understanding your energy is how you stop fighting yourself. And it’s life-changing.
The Quiet Rebellion
This isn’t a loud transformation. It’s not dramatic. It won’t earn you praise.
It’s quiet. Daily, Unseen.
It’s choosing yourself in small moments. It’s no longer negotiating your worth. It’s deciding that your energy matters.
This was never about becoming someone new who hits the gym 5 times a week (who’s got time for that?!) - it’s about finally coming back to yourself.
And that’s what Reset & Rise is all about - the quiet rebellion of being deeply yourself.
